A few books seem to stand out as especially helpful to couples and their families going through divorce or separation. Nearly all of these are available on-line from Amazon.com‘s divorce listings. For your convenience, click on either a book’s title or its image, and you will be linked to Amazon.com for more information or ordering. * Denotes books I suggest as starting points, if you have limited resources (time, energy, money).
ADULT BOOKS ABOUT DIVORCE IN GENERAL
St. Martin’s Griffin, 1997
Excellent review of divorce options. Small paperback. Does not include NYS’s No-Fault law passed in October 2010
ADULT BOOKS ABOUT MEDIATION AND COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE SPECIFICALLY
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN
1998 [2005 Third printing].
Ages 7-12. Space for drawings, journal entries, plus the story of Kristen, the kitten. Focus on feelings.
1998, Barron’s Educational Series, Inc.
Short thoughtful cartoon book for ages 5 -10 asking children how they feel.
Magination Press (APA), 2002.
Ages 3 to 9 [adult help needed for younger children]. Kids draw about their feelings and experiences. Includes a “Note to Kids”, “Note to Parents”.
2005, Gemser Publications.
Very short simple cartoon book for ages 3-7 focussing on early awareness of parent’s split.
Book Peddlers,Minn. 1998.
Ages 5-10. Text reading level. 3-4 grade. Footnotes for parents on each page give excellent suggestions and explanations for them.
dinosaursBROWN, Laurie Kransy, & BROWN, Marc. Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families Little, Brown & Co., 1986 , 2009.
Excellent cartoon book depicting a dozen essential issues. Pictures are complex and might be confusing or hard to read for a younger child. Can be read to children age 6 and up, or given to children through early teen years.
BOOKS ABOUT CHILDREN FOR ADULTS
Ballantine/ Random House N.Y.,2000.
A personal & moving accounting by two school psychologists RE: how to increase boys’ emotional literacy.
Scribner. NY. 2002.
Excellent blueprint for a character based education for the entire family. Focus on living fundamental values: attitude over aptitude; effort over achievement; character over talent.
Health Communications, Inc. Deerfield Beach, Florida. 1999.
Straightforward generic “Rules of the Game” in how parents view themselves in their parenting role.
From break-up thru divorce, to post-divorce. Developmental approach from baby thru’ college re: what to do and say.
Fireside. N.Y. 1980, 1997
A complete guide to a wide range of issues for parents and children. Chapters 12,13,14 provide an excellent step-by-step approach to the purpose and details of the Parenting Plan.
Palgrave McMillan, N.Y., 2010.
Good summary of separation & attachment issues in each developmental stage., ages 1 thru 18.
Very complete 5-Part guide with exercises, real life stories, and explicit suggestions. Chapter 7 has an excellent blueprint of Parenting Plan components.